why i hate men
my opinion of men is now carved on stone.
i was the only female in a group of six males who went out for a coffee break this afternoon. on the way back, i saw a girl in a pink spaghetti-strap tank top (with matching lacy neckline!!!) fixated on her mobile phone. clear skin, full pouty lips that you can't help but notice because of the lip gloss. maybe 19 years old. i thought, "the guys will notice her, for sure." i was mildly surprised when none of them turned back for another look.
i gave them too much credit much too soon.
as we were crossing the street, not five meters away, the testosterone started talking.
"ey, did you see that?"
"still young, that one."
oh yes, why don't you continue talking that way in the presence of a LADY???
maybe i'm too much of a no-frills girl that they already think of me as a guy. or maybe they think i'm that dense (like they are!!) that i wouldn't get what they're saying. or maybe they just don't really care what i think, anyway.
contrary to what you may think, that episode didn't lower my opinion of men. it only reinforced my notions of male - for lack of a better word - piggery.
i know how most men's minds work. i know how to catch their eye, i know how to make them drool. but for the most part, i don't. though i very well can! it doesn't take a lot to wear 50% less fabric than i usually do. and i can certainly put on make-up almost as well as a beautician. but still, i curb the desire to. because i don't want to be perceived as just eye candy. because i know a guy who is just interested in how i look won't really be interested in the long haul.
it upsets me that men are so shallow, that most just see women as something to ogle. (choice of words very much intentional. someTHING. ogle.) okay, so not all men are like that. but heck, would guys smile at me if i weren't 5'7" tall, the right weight, and without any glaring physical deformities??? i already have this general aura that says "men, bugger off" - but it's not quite as effective without a quasimodo face. yes, it's human nature to be attracted to things beautiful. but how some men see women takes that innocent statement to a whole new level.
maybe men aren't really that superficial. but i have seen the drool reflex in practically every single man i've known. with the exception of my ex-boyfriend, who professed that he will not look at another woman after me. (in fairness, he pretty much held to that pledge. at least, while i was around.) if there is a male member of the human race who cares more about a woman's character than her appearance - feel free to introduce yourself. until then, i'll continue hating every testosterone-bearing (supposedly) sentient biped on the face of the planet.
disclaimer: this generalization does not apply to my guy friends. those people, i love. they wouldn't be my friends if they were so facile.
i was the only female in a group of six males who went out for a coffee break this afternoon. on the way back, i saw a girl in a pink spaghetti-strap tank top (with matching lacy neckline!!!) fixated on her mobile phone. clear skin, full pouty lips that you can't help but notice because of the lip gloss. maybe 19 years old. i thought, "the guys will notice her, for sure." i was mildly surprised when none of them turned back for another look.
i gave them too much credit much too soon.
as we were crossing the street, not five meters away, the testosterone started talking.
"ey, did you see that?"
"still young, that one."
oh yes, why don't you continue talking that way in the presence of a LADY???
maybe i'm too much of a no-frills girl that they already think of me as a guy. or maybe they think i'm that dense (like they are!!) that i wouldn't get what they're saying. or maybe they just don't really care what i think, anyway.
contrary to what you may think, that episode didn't lower my opinion of men. it only reinforced my notions of male - for lack of a better word - piggery.
i know how most men's minds work. i know how to catch their eye, i know how to make them drool. but for the most part, i don't. though i very well can! it doesn't take a lot to wear 50% less fabric than i usually do. and i can certainly put on make-up almost as well as a beautician. but still, i curb the desire to. because i don't want to be perceived as just eye candy. because i know a guy who is just interested in how i look won't really be interested in the long haul.
it upsets me that men are so shallow, that most just see women as something to ogle. (choice of words very much intentional. someTHING. ogle.) okay, so not all men are like that. but heck, would guys smile at me if i weren't 5'7" tall, the right weight, and without any glaring physical deformities??? i already have this general aura that says "men, bugger off" - but it's not quite as effective without a quasimodo face. yes, it's human nature to be attracted to things beautiful. but how some men see women takes that innocent statement to a whole new level.
maybe men aren't really that superficial. but i have seen the drool reflex in practically every single man i've known. with the exception of my ex-boyfriend, who professed that he will not look at another woman after me. (in fairness, he pretty much held to that pledge. at least, while i was around.) if there is a male member of the human race who cares more about a woman's character than her appearance - feel free to introduce yourself. until then, i'll continue hating every testosterone-bearing (supposedly) sentient biped on the face of the planet.
disclaimer: this generalization does not apply to my guy friends. those people, i love. they wouldn't be my friends if they were so facile.
posted by super inday at 1:33 pm
7 Comments:
siguro pangit ka kaya walang pakialam ang mga lalake sa paligid mo.
i will not dignify that comment with a response. (funny, though, she didn't leave a name...)
maybe i don't hate men. i just hate what they do most of the time. but to you, that's just the same thing.
fine, no apologies. i hate men. and from what i remember, you're a man as well.
uh... guys, i think this girl needs a boyfriend... ASAP!
Fongi,
As a man, who would like to believe that he is among those fortunate enough to be considered your friend... please allow me to shed some perspective on that...
Yes... as a man, I agree that we men have a tendency to view women as "things" especially if they "package" themselves in such a way that it becomes convenient to them to be be subject to that. I'll give you that...
But here's the thing: I think that it's unfair for you to imply (your writing implies it) that all men who do this (Ogle at women) are incapable of appreciating their finer qualities... though I admit that there are some boneheads who are incapable though.
I'll not pretend to be oh so saintly that I do not ogle at the occassional hottie... I do.... but to my credit, I love to look into the finer qualities of women far more than I like to ogle. And I think the same goes with a good number of men who do so as well...
In the same light, aren't there women who check out men's butts and 'ogle' at them as well? (I concede that there are much fewer of them on our side of the world though.... but heck, let's face it... that's a cultural thing). And just like how some men view women merely as subjects for their primal perversions... Is it not true that a good number of women do the same? Men as cash cows?
Both sides are guilty of many great cultural crimes of sexuality... pare-pareho lang...
As the Thais say "Same Same!!!!" :)
obviously the result of a pms-ridden, hormonally imbalanced rant. hahaha!
wahkonga
hey!!! *I* said that!!! stop stealing my lines, ed!
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